When's the last time you spoke with her? Saw her in person? What was that interaction like? Does she know you've been considering moving away.
I've saw her about a month ago. She stopped by with a bill of mine. We chatted for about 5 minutes and she left for a class. Again, maybe a month before that. I ran into her on the street. We talked for about a 1/2 hour. She's engaged with me both times ... lingers when I start wrapping things up. I end the discussions and walk away though. She knows my lease is up and that I have to make a decision. I haven't spoken about a move, so this will be a surprise I think.
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You've been separated since 4/1/08, how long have you been living apart? Same time? If so that's over a year, how long have you been divorce busting? Has it been only a few months or has it been longer. How do you feel with your progress? Are you making any headway, has anything improved? Do you know if she has been seeing someone? Dating?
She moved out two days after the bomb b/c I refused to leave the apartment. So, yes, she's been gone the whole time. I found DB late last summer. I did a few counseling sessions. I thought we were making progress, but I didn't figure it out until later ... that what she says and what she does do not match up. It dawned on me that I was just hoping she was engaged when she really wasn't. So, I just stopped calling. That was 3 months ago. I've spoken to her twice since then.
Her EA/PA was with a guy in another country. After she confessed to the whole thing back in Sept, she agreed to a NC deal. I really didn't know what I was doing and didn't have a plan to follow up. I'm pretty sure that she's back in contact with him. I would be surprised if there is someone local. I took a guess called her on this back in Feb ... "that guy you talk to that you can tell everything to ... that isn't me ... it's still cheating." I got a weird response about friendship and that was the time I decided to stop calling and whatnot. The short answer, I think there is someone else lurking around, but overseas.
