No contact is not a gift for her, it's a gift for you. It's part of detachment, it gets your head screwed on straight again, you reclaim your individuality, you start doing things for you, you start placing your needs at the top of the priority list, the needs that you alone are responsible for taking care of - I make this distinction because alot of people have needs that they want their partner to take care of, it's time to take responsibility and do for ourselves. It shows independence, it shows control of your life, it shows self-value & self-respect and all of those things create attraction.
You've been living your life based on her actions, it's time to switch gears and live life for you.
Moving closer to work is a good thing.
When's the last time you spoke with her? Saw her in person? What was that interaction like? Does she know you've been considering moving away.
You've been separated since 4/1/08, how long have you been living apart? Same time? If so that's over a year, how long have you been divorce busting? Has it been only a few months or has it been longer. How do you feel with your progress? Are you making any headway, has anything improved? Do you know if she has been seeing someone? Dating?
