Yes Glam, it is a mystery,especially this being Mr Helpful,nice guy to those in need of his help. It just doesn't extend to his own flesh and blood or you? thats what I can't understand, he must have feelings otherwise why would he bother to help anyone. Best just to let him get on with it and not try to understand otherwise you will end up crazy. It has never ceased to amaze me when reading the posts on this BB for so many years how so many of these men are ministers or pasters in the church and yet they cheat and lie on their own families. I guess God just shakes his head. As ever one day at a time, make plans for your future and those children of yours,at least they have you. I grieve for that poor child with a mother like she/he has and possibly your H for a Dad. What chance or hope has she/he got. Nothing you can do but do what you have been doing all these years, taking care of things. I am amazed by your patience and how H has come and gone and you show him nothing but love and kindness. I haven't much of a temper but I am sure I would have thrown the nearest thing to hand at him on more than one occassion. There must be something better coming for you and your kids. Take care.
