Thanks! It helped that he was someone I knew. Nervous at first since we hadn't even ran in to each other for a number of years. 3.5 hours can't be all bad.
Maybe it was a way to check my comfort zone plus put some questions to rest. He said that in the 5 years since he got divorced, he had only dated 2 women more than once.
Oh and did I mention he could tell me what my only regret was?! But he thought that was who I wanted to be with now...wrong. Well his memory isn't like mine (mine is kind of like an elephant's)and I can get that. However flirt guy seems to remember quite a bit about it. Hmmmmm.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
So now for some crazy reason, former BF and I are having a conversation about some guy I had a major crush on in grade school!! Seems they work for the same agency or something and they are having a conversation with me via text!!
What can of beans have I opened?? The guy's married so he isn't trying to help me that way. Oh well it is fun so whatever...
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The crush. Former BF was married until he caught his W cheating. He kicked her to the curb without a moment's hesitation. So that was a bit over 5 years ago. What is ironic is that I got married, the next week Flirt guy and then 4 months later former BF. We all have 16 year olds and 14(or soon to be) year olds. I have the 2 extra. Former BF got divorced first and then flirt guy about 3.5 years ago and then me, 28 days shy of a year ago.
This is one crazy world. I don't even know why former BF brought me up to this other guy. It was ages ago when I was 8 for crying out loud. But yes I did have a major crush on him and now he is telling former BF that someone told him that and he wondered if it was true. Gosh, did I fall back into high school for a moment?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Eight years old, dang, how did he remember that? LOL Seems like you passed high school memories up and went back to elementary. Ahhhhh...the good old days!
So no hint of even a little flame flicker with former BF? Never say never...
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well we did go all through school together after I moved back here when I was 8. I really lost track of him in jr high. Don't know how that even got brought up.
Former boyfriend is content to fly under the radar, not even wanting to think about what he might want because it isn't about him. I can't really understand that. Sure right now a lot of living is for our kids but there has to be something out of life that you want for yourself. I think we have just become too different. It was fun chatting and I think maybe we were meant to be friends all along, not partners. After all he was my first because I knew he would never hurt me.
I think he will be good for me to get my mind off of some things and get my hiney in gear to do those things I should be doing.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think so too. And I'm also thinking, maybe just dating friends and not guys that we're romantically interested or want to get serious with is better anyway? If anything later develops fine, but I don't really want a long-term or serious R any time soon I don't think. A little fun and friendship sounds good right now.
Now I am dating him?? Let's not put the cart ahead of the horse!! Just funny that he started this little text thing today right after my boss left so I actually could text him back! lol He could have said all sorts of things, so I am glad that he just kept it surface only.
I am not going to over think this and make it into something it is not. But Karen, I actually told him about the thing I broke!!! What was I thinking??!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks for the chat last night!!! I recharged my phone!
I feel much better today. OK, I think we both agree and you said something like our X's or STBX both like to hurt us by actions and words. I think so too. Why would that be? Both of us have generally been "high road" with them, they're the cheaters, etc. I still don't get that....
LOL, seems like the good old high school days, doesn't it? Have fun with it! By the way which guy is married, the former BF or the crush?