For a person vacillating wildly with emotional extremes (your wife), a person who is centered and doesn't change no matter what she throws at him (you) can be a strong stable influence who helps them find center. I think that if you continue to plod along on your path, she will find that comforting.
A caveat though, for if and when she does start sniffing around. Had a discussion last night with my H. Asked him if he thought there was any chance that men and women could get along if they didn't have sex. Answer was "no, not at all". Got to agree. Without sex, men and women cannot co-exist in the same house.
You might be right, Sara. In any event, all I can do is Roll My Way.
As far as co-habiting and sex goes, during one of our getting-along periods I made it quite clear to WAW that, in the event she required such services I'd be more than happy to volunteer -- purely an act of altruism, mind you.
As far as co-habiting and sex goes, during one of our getting-along periods I made it quite clear to WAW that, in the event she required such services I'd be more than happy to volunteer -- purely an act of altruism, mind you.
Good grief. *rolling my eyes*
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I think the Greek is rolling her eyes because it sounds like something I would have said. And meant it! You know glady take one for the team. Just for medicinal purposes only.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I think the Greek is rolling her eyes because it sounds like something I would have said. And meant it! You know glady take one for the team. Just for medicinal purposes only.
Bingo.
Wink noted.
Cheers ~~~
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I get this longish e-mail from WAW today about the Loh article -- "ya see this?" -- and when I say that FROM MY POV it sure sounds awfully familiar, it launches this virtual back-and-forth where the upshot is: What the fark am I talking about? I don't really hear her at all do I? Am I a mental case? That woman is NOTHING like WAW. Why, I must be getting divorced from some OTHER woman! That woman had her affair first! Not like WAW! Hers was second! See? This is the problem in a nutshell! It's always been the problem! I don't listen at all!
Ummmmmmmmmmmmm -- do I NOT have, like, 200 e-mails? Do I NOT have, like, a fairly good memory, especially of the past 18 weeks? Was I NOT in the room when you told me I "p*ssed it all away" and "threw it all away" and "abandoned" you and that Signore Schmuckatelli was just a "symptom" and not a "cause" and that "marriage is outmoded" and "19th-Century" and "too much work" and and and and and?
Or maybe this has allllllll been a dream. Maybe the S.S. Minnow never even left the harbor on that three-hour tour.....
And meant it! You know glady take one for the team. Just for medicinal purposes only.