Yes Antlers, I knew I phrased that awkwardly. My point was that whereas in many sitches, the aim and focus is rightfully on the spouse to really pay attention to what works and actively try to get them to come around, it seems the aim and focus for most of us is ourselves and survival and accepting the loss of the M (at least to some degree).
I think that I just think my sitch is different but it is just a distinct environment. In reality, I'm sure we are all going through the same feelings.
How do I exorcise this feeling that something has/is being taken from me and my children?
I can amp myself up, get the PMA, focus on other things. But, at the end of the day, I feel really screwed over.
