No worries SO2...I do want that different perspective...

I believe she "wants" it, it's the can't see any other way part...Not willing to try is what I don't get. It's not like she wants to date, told me this last night...I started the topic but she agreed it sux to try and start dating after almost 20 years together...We both know we will but aren't really looking forward to it.

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People have come back to healthy M's with way more baggage than yours. There was no infidelity, secrets, or abuse.


I know that's what is so hard to figure out. Last night she said something like she's had to do everything by herself the last two years and she resents me for that...Told her that was her choice (nicely).

I've accepted the fact we are going to D, no doubt in my mind, I just don't understand it...That's what makes it hard.

Me:40
W: 39
T: 17 years
M: 15 years
S-9
D-6
D final 11/10/2009

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."