H just moved out, 13 months post-bomb

[mishka422]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAWN!!!!!

Have the ice cream girl! A little brownie along with it too!

Regarding the pool, do you have homeowner's insurance? Could any of the damage have been caused by debris from a storm or did the cover probably negate that possibility?

I really don't know what to say about the rest of the sitch. I'm not a good one to ask, but I can tell you that hanging on to 'dead weight' does you no favors. I do believe, based on biblical references, that D is permitted in God's eyes when your S has been unfaithful. That was a huge comfort to me because I don't believe in D in general. However, God does expect us to attempt reconcilliation at some level - not necessarily the recovery of the M, but in the guise of a level of friendship and forgiveness.

Ok, enough said on that, I'm not trying to change your mind or advocate D. Just sharing my POV.

Your friend is a complete hypocrite, I'm so sorry that this toxic R with her is so prevelent in your life. She definitely has no business making any kind of intercession between you and your H or suggesting anything to him. She has been involved in, at the very least, an EA for years with an admitted bi-sexual (excuse me, but if she is so 'religious' then she has to believe that is wrong in God's eyes) and has been systematically destroying her M. Do you honestly want someone with that history to be talking to your H about his 'need' for some kind of additional M counseling? YUCK! Does your H know about her EA?

I have a question....with the financial situation you find yourself in, why haven't you taken an outside job? It won't stop you from doing your art, but it could help your bottom line.