Stats are just stats and most of the time if you look hard enough you can find any "info" to back up the stat you have.
Since its an interesting question though I will throw in my 2 cents. I think men find it harder to be alone and often feel like they need a R to be happy after a divorce. I think women tend to want to heal and be more protective of their heart until they know they are fully ready to be open to somebody new.
Y'day my H and I had a long and emotional talk and I was STUNNED that he opened up to me in tears that he has been thinking long and hard about his GF for a very long time and wondering if he is in the R just so he could have a R, feel like he is in a "normal R", have his needs met and rely on somebody else to heal because he couldnt do it on his own. Will he break up with her? I doubt it but for him to say that was telling. He also said he thinks it might be a mistake and he is unsure (but didnt say what he was unsure about).
I did ask him (and this was not good DB'ing but who cares, our court is tomorrow) if he is in such a solid and stable R with this person why hasnt she supported him at all in trying to make things right with me (not being so ugly) and he said he did not know and he guesses she does not love him unconditionally. But like he says he cant fail again in a R so he will stay with her forever. He also told me he was scared and sobbed about so many things.
I had a horrible dream last night that H and I were living in the house I grew up in but my H was really my Dad and we were late for court. (FWIW, my dad is deceased). It was very disturbing.
I am so stressed right now I feel ill. Sorry to hijack.
