I see similarities to how you have interacted with your husband in the past and how I have interacted with mine.
I too am letting him run with much of the big stuff in our relationship right now as he is currently in a zone where he is reaching for control in his life.
A suggestion on your tax stuff. Instead of telling him what you think you should be doing, why don't you ask him a) if he has thoughts on what you should do, or a plan he is working on (eg with accountants etc) to tackle it.
Then B) ask him what he would like you to do to help him?
I would only go down your path if he is totally wanting to hand it over to you. Otherwise, just a suggestion to help him take the next step in solving it himself, as in " has the accountant made any suggestions as to what we should be doing now?).
I would be reading up madly in the background, but hold back to give a chance to work through it at his pace first.
But I can't find your old threads so feel free to ignore!
