Yeah, I had a childhood where I had no control at all, so swung the other way for quite a while. Oddly enough, while being a SAHM one of my goals was to work on all those sorts of faults, and I had changed my headspace quite a bit, but H had stopped looking at me.
I have an IC who I worked with for a few months before I got married. I wanted to minimise my childhood issues, and she helped me work out how to just let things go. I will keep working with her.
