It is irritating to think that they're just sitting around waiting for feelings to come back without doing anything to bring the feelings about.
Irritating, but understandable. They are so wrapped up in their own hopelessness that they don't know how, and they're not really motivated to try. All they know is that they WANT to feel good again, and will do ANYTHING to get that back. Anything, that is, except reconnect with the spouse, who they seem to look on as the reason for all their unhappiness. This is probably why a large number of them seem to have EAs/PAs.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
