My separated in same house thing has been going on for a year(with a five week reprieve around Sept).I`ve made progress but only in the past eight weeks. LRT and a therapist have both helped hugely to bring that about.
I prefer not to do regrets but would just like to advise anyone in this situation to find a good therapist asap(wish I`d gone to mine much sooner).If you`re not happy with your therapist keep searching!You don`t need someone just to listen to you(though that`s good too) you need someone who`ll challenge you on your role in the M breakdown enough so you can truly change.
And LRT is such a damn useful tool for changing. You`ve gotta have that.
Yes, Stormrider, my H`s mother made all the decisions for him too, as you`ll have seen in my thread) But I`ve just learnt that I`m like my Dad-controlling and bullying(though he is a dear man too; this is not about blame)
Its easy to see where our spouses are going wrong. Easy to be angry and claw out in the whirl of fear and threats.That`s why I think sitting calmly and still within the storm will give you time to settle your thoughts, time to see your role in things and your H time to see you`ve changed.
Living in limbo without lovingly detaching though is a very different place. LRT keep you away from the Crazy Dance.
