H knows I'm out w/my girlfriends last night for my birthday, and calls my cell at 8pm. I have my girlfriend answer it (they're good friends, too) and she answers "What's up, Hot Stuff? We were just talking about you. Your W was telling us what a hard worker you are..." (I could smack her, btw... but she doesn't know anything about our sitch.)
So, I'm out trying to have a good time, NOT talking about him (just a little, telling them how much he's had to be out of town, but juggling all well), and deciding if this detachment thing is going to work I need to (at least in my H's eyes) make him think I'm NOT thinking/talking about him) and he calls and she tells him we're talking about him! LOL GOD!
Well, at least she told him I was speaking positively, instead of complaining.
So, the only reason he called was to tell me some old friends of ours are coming to our 4th party, and may want to stay. Do I mind? (HAVE I EVER MINDED? I love people around!) And, what should they bring? (This afternoon we decided he would tell anyone that asks to bring side dishes for the cookout, and I'll tell everyone I tell the other things... that way we don't have to keep checking in.) So, I just tell him, "Sure, we'd both really enjoy having them around. I miss them, and am sure you do, too. You can tell them to bring a side dish, unless you have something specific in mind that you will need (drinks wise),"
Now, he didn't need to call for that. And, he knew I was out w/my girlfriends. I don't care. I enjoy the contact. I don't think he's checking up on me. He has NO reason to, in fact it's the polar opposite.
Just odd.
Wish I didn't love him so much.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
