I don't even know where to start sometimes, trying to peel back the layers of WHY this happened and how I can fix it.
"Why" questions are dead-ends. "How" questions -- those can get you somewhere. How can I adjust to this? How can I assure WAS that..? How can I help my children cope?
Why? That's above our paygrade -- my paygrade, anyway. Why? Because they're so frustrating, as you're both noticing.
