Glam, just popped by to see how things are.
I have a hard time understanding ANY of your H's thinking / mentality.
It must make you want to laugh or cry? It is so pathetic as to be absurd.
Did he ever get the marriage commitment thing.
You are such a strong person and I know you will get through this,I think your H knows this too,so maybe thats why he doesn't feel the need to try and make it right or recommit to you.
It is almost like yep Glams my wife and always will be,she can cope with anything I do and is always there for me as and when I need her.
As he doesn't suport you or the kids financially I guess if he has to pay child maintenance(not sure what you call it) it wont affect you,at least not financially.
Hopefully things will work out with the house, but a move might be just the thing for you and your family.
Take care.