Maybe you could invite your kooky friend over for ice-cream. Try not to spend your birthday alone, but hugs from your virtual friends!
Glad to know you are an avid exerciser...another thought, esp. for summer and fall. Look for a hiking group or a cycling group ride to join. Often you can find these through a park district or bike shop. I really think getting out and getting to know others with similar interests who know neither you nor your H would help you build your confidence and would be great GAL activities. Plus finding others to join would help you get over that it was an activity you did with H.
Be strong and Happy 43rd Birthday!
BTW - I never got to this point, but from reading others, it might not hurt to have a consult with an attorney. They usually offer an hour of free consult. Knowledge is power and it doesn't hurt to know your rights and what you are entitled to.
