Bugs Bunny:"GET ME OUTTA HERE"

[25yearsmlc]

(K, how'd you decide that she won't work out with the kids? Just curious....but in total agreement if the OP isn't a fit...they're outta there...to digress for yet another minute.--years ago I was doing legal assistance when a 30 y/o woman came in for some adoption/remarriage issues and let slip, as an aside, that her new fiancee was "going to be a great h except the kids don't get along with him, but that's okay b/c ....blah blah blah" and I stopped her then and there and said, "Wth? How is a guy a "great H" if he doesn't get along with the kids? The two go hand in hand and she hemmed and hawed. What she meant, I THINK, is "he makes a good living and MY/our standard of living will go up and my loneliness is of paramount importance to me and maybe no one else will want me later, so I better grab ths loser while he likes me....and besides....(drum roll please..) KIDS ARE RESILIENT!!" She left my office without the advice she had come in for...oh well.

FIB, back to you...

Can we say we're down to 90 days or less of this? Can you suck it up with CPS and hope to God you get one of the ones who ARE concerned with the kids and not predisposed against "powerful educated (read, "well") men"? God I hope so. I hope they can see what we see in you but tell me now, how on earth does your W ever pull off the perfect W routine LATELY?
Does she address the A's with anyone? I know I know, NOT the kids..but the CPS and other people involved in the kids treatments, aren't "OP" relevant as they MAY relate to your children's welfare? Can you get an agreement that is enforceable, that does Not allow for the kids to "meet new friends" of the opposite sex for year or at least 6 months and put some teeth into the provision?

Hey FIB, I'm NOT a NY L so dont' let me undermine your L as I'm just tossing out ideas I like for my folks to have.

As for dating others....a mixed bag I am sure. There will be a few who we OUGHT to write about so we can keep our senses of humor. I was asked out by someone I met at a party and I declined but before doing so, here are the three (3) faux pas or Freudian slips he made in front of me. First he used the word "IMPOTENT" instead of important...which I caught and thought he was kidding about. He also said, "orgasm" instead of "organic"...( I swear) and
towards the end of the evening just before asking me to go out with him though he knew I was still married, he said, 'A lot of women won't go out with me b/c of the housing issues and money but I think you care about what's inside a man...."

Okay....I HAD to ask, "what housing issue?" and he said, "I house sit with some other guys in Hollywood & share a room..." and "I work when I want to..." (Translation, "I am on welfare..."....alrighty then)

In TIME FIB, you'll meet someone who enjoys your company. You'll make her laugh and she'll make you laugh. You'll see her do something thoughtful without an audience. You will respect AND trust her as she will you...in time.
Chances are she will have once been wounded too. But don't they say that there are some wounds that make you stronger, once healed properly?

So really that's your task. To heal properly, to care for your children, and move forward. God has a plan for you and some of it has already come to bear fruit that you can only partially see FIB.

You know you've made a difference to others and that gives you a little pat on the back. The rest of His plan is about to unfold, as you finish this last most grueling lap uphill.

You will see the top of that hill, you will look at how far you've come, who you once were and who you've become - and you will KNOW that the next woman who comes into your heart for real, and for good, will get the BEST FIB ever. You will love & be loved again and it will surpass what you had before.

We all wish this for you and we BELIEVE it.

Just get through this, take care of the kids, don't rush through the "transitions dating" series....(those poor souls who are in the right place at the wrong time) and come out to the other side with your dignity and wallet still intact...

I'm too tired to say anymore and God knows I've babbled enough...just--Keep us posted!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!

xoxoxo,
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