On being the best O'Dog I can be

[orangedog]

Great talk with religious-friend today. His insights:

- Don't ascribe value to feelings. Don't avoid negative feelings by trying to bury them or distraction. Get 'em out. Try to understand them (very Zen-like).

- Be your wife's fan for a while. Huh? Be happy for her success in what she does. Cheer her on. Did you ever give her that kind of attention and affirmation when you we're married? Try it. He had this to say about the weekend: "Of course bro' you don't want to be a baby sitter all weekend. And it appears you're not going to be. But can you be supportive for this big event? Can you cheer her on and feel her success? Can you tell her, "It's your 20th HS Reunion and I want you to have the best time ever tonight. I got everything taken care of here. Oh, and you look great." Think how that's going to make her feel about herself and about you.

- When I told him sometimes I just don't know what I'm doing, he replied, "You're on deployment. Your job is not to forget about her but to work on those things you wanted to work on, remember?"

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Saw W at soccer game. She's got a lot going on in her tiny universe. She said BFF had made a few FB and email comments around about the "mini monsters" and "devils". She was not amused and quickly told BFF don't even joke about calling our kids these names and don't complain how tough it is. I was in easy agreement there.

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Youngest asked me this evening when I'm moving back to mom's house. I told him I don't know. It's between mom and I. Maybe I'll move back maybe I won't. He's still trying to get a handle on this whole thing. Sad.