Newbie - first post and ?s

[Gardener]

Sorry, Ash. Just got home and am catching up on a few threads before bed.

You got good advice and commiserating tonight. I second all of it and send you hugs for your hurting.

So you lost it. So what. If that a$$hole, insensitive behavior wouldn't make someone lose it, I don't know what would.

It's called DivorceBusting. Not Easy DivorceBusting, or Divorcebusting For Non-Humans. You're human. Go to sleep. Rest. You need it and deserve it.

My sitch does not involve an A, so I'm far from expert in these waters, but:
would "OW's name is not to be spoken in my presence" be an acceptable boundary to lay down?