Which is why I'm going to say it too. Actually, how is it that you keep having these flip flopping conversations? It is perfectly acceptable for you to say, "I don't want to hear it anymore. Even if you wanted to come home, you haven't been invited to by me and the door isn't even open for you. I deserve better. If a time comes when you've grown up, maybe we can talk, otherwise, don't talk about coming home anymore. You are at your home...and this is MINE." Or something like that. It's okay to show some backbone.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
Which is why I'm going to say it too. Actually, how is it that you keep having these flip flopping conversations? It is perfectly acceptable for you to say, "I don't want to hear it anymore. Even if you wanted to come home, you haven't been invited to by me and the door isn't even open for you. I deserve better. If a time comes when you've grown up, maybe we can talk, otherwise, don't talk about coming home anymore. You are at your home...and this is MINE." Or something like that. It's okay to show some backbone.
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OMG, Phoenix, that is PERFECT!!! An even better version of "I'm afraid it's not that simple anymore."
But that might drive her away guys! Come on, AF, I know you can do this!
Burt
Sarcasm???
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
none taken, just hard to read on the blog. It's just as frustrating if not more for me to go through this as it is for everyone here to read. I really appreciate everyones inputs and advice though.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Funny thing happened today. I called to talk to my daughter and didn't talk to the wife and she texted me later and asked why I didn't want to talk to her and if I was kicking her to the curb? I almost spit my drink out when I read it. Good stuff--it seems like pulling back in intervals gets her attention more so than pulling back all the time. Adjust accordingly, right?
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
AFWAW...are you not getting what people are saying? It really doesn't matter what makes her pull back and what pushes her away. YOU NEED TO DECIDE IF YOU WANT HER OR NOT.
If you do, then by all means, keep letting her jerk you around and keep db-ing in the hopes it will one day bring her home.
If you don't, then text her back CONSIDER YOURSELF KICKED TO THE CURB, and then never have a conversation with her about it again, EVER.
When you say things like "adjust accordingly, right?" it is simply amazing to the rest of us. What are you supposed to adjust, if in fact you have not decided what it is that you want?
