GETTING UN'STUCK'

[confusedinpa]

Stuck,

Let me tell you what you would tell me if I posted what you had just posted.

You need to detach. She sees this guy once a year. Don't start making it into anything more that that. Hopefully it isn't so why waste your time and energy on it.

Continue to work on yourself and become the Stuck that only a fool would leave.

Hang in there.

[25yearsmlc]

ditto what confused says. She sees this guy once a year and for all you know, he told her "it sucks out here in the dating world" and btw, is HE M? Don't assume the worst or mind read negatively.

Besides, even if he's some great guy in her dreams, talking to him for two hours often DISillusions those of us in la la land. Seriously.

Last but NOT least, you have NO control over this. So why spend ANY energy on what you cannot control, and zero energy on what you CAN?
Work on what you can work on, you know like the Serenity prayer...

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

j-

[MrBond]

Well not to mind read or anything, but the guy has a girlfriend and I didn't mean to snoop, but I found out that he gave my W a $200 gift card to a spa which trumps my $100 one I gave her.

Still think it's nothing serious?

[25yearsmlc]

No. Never said it wasn't.

I said it was something you cannot control - so why spend energy on it? Spend it on something you CAN control....

re read my posts and the Serenity Prayer, more than once my friend.
j-

[MrBond]

Thanks 25.

You are so right about the Serenity Prayer. I'll be saying it often.

I've decided to create a new post since my sitch has changed.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1792749#Post1792749