Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

Ugh. Met with yet another atty today. Basically, I am now not expecting a damn dime from any of this. Anything I get will be eaten up by legal fees. And they are saying the fact that I sold my condo for a loss means absolutely nothing "you didn't have to sell it, you could have rented it out", even though my association bylaws AND my mortgage specifically prohibit this, yeah right. <sigh> I'm so, so sick of this divorce legal crap. It sounds like it's going to take forever to get anything done at all, even to get an initial hearing on the matter. I mean months and months of bs are looming ahead, unless, of course, if he agrees to mediation.

Oh, here's more delightful news on that front. Not only does my H want me to even stop trying to get the house to live in, per my concession in hopes of doing mediation instead, but now he ALSO wants me to agree to the following bs : "my assets are my assets, yours are yours, my debts are my debts, yours are yours". He is saying that both his 401k and his house have not appreciated at all, so I would get 1/2 of nothing. That's absoulute crap, beacuse the stock market is much higher than it was when we married. He concluded this by saying that he thinks it is "Very fair"! What an idiot! No way will I agree to this!

No offense to men, but he is completely unclear of the concept here, as it seems all the spouses who have to get a court trial are. They just refuse to acknowledge the rules in this state.

Ok, so the atty was telling me even just to get the motion going so that I can stop him from spending the way he has been spending, I need this first court appearance, but if I do it now, I won't get into court until September or October! And this is just the initial court thing, not final divorce hearing or anything. I can see why they say that it will take at least 12 months from the date of filing to the actual divorce.