Life After the Affair

[GH31]

Didi,

Sandi has some incredible insight to give you here, and I also think she does us chaps a huge favour too.

I also hope that you will detach yourself from that friend.

I hope you will too. She backed you in cheating on your husband - even though your H doesn't mind this friendship, the greatest favour you can do for him is to let her go.

I can almost promise that she will find somebody else when you detach from her. She is the type to drain people of their energy and emotions and everything else that she can get from them and then move on to the next victum.

Sandi is right. This parasite will find another host to lock on to, all in the fullness of time.

Now for the fun stuff.

Anyway, I do agree that you could tell him what you fantasize of him doing for you sexually. Tell him that at this time in your life you need a mucho man who takes his woman and throws her down and has his way with her.

I did this exact same thing with my W the other day. As I was leaving for work we were having some fun banter. She kissed me passionately as I was leaving for work so I just took her by the arm, led her through the house and once through our bedroom door picked her up and threw her on the bed and had my way with her several times. I would have picked her up sooner but the narrow passageways in the house would have been hazardous to her.

It works. Sandi, is this what you refer to? That's not to say my marriage is great - in fact it is horrendous, but the sexual side for us has always been good.

best,

GH31