MC: So how have things been around the house on a day to day basis?
Me: We have had some good times - Father's Day was nice, we went to a BBQ for S7's bball league together, over to MIL's for dinner, then I went out of town for a week.
H: yes, there were some nice times, but we don't have many interactions.
Me: That's true we don't have much time together lately. I have been focusing on growth w/in myself right now & feeling great about it. I think Mr. HVA is able to grow from all of this too and that makes me really happy.
MC: How was being out of town for the week?
Me: It was so great. It was like getting back to my roots. As you get older, your life becomes more structured & rigid. It was just good to remember the authentic "me" who was so fun-loving.
MC: HVA, you said before you were making changes based on what Mr. HVA has said - has anything else come to light that you may be working on?
Me: I am focusing on growth in areas that I feel I want to develop partially based on what Mr. HVA has said, but there are many other things I am working on too just because I want to.
MC: Have you shared these things w/Mr. HVA?
Me: No, and I don't care to. I plan for people to SEE what I am doing, not tell them about them.
MC: Mr. HVA, you always say HVA makes you feel guilty about doing things. Has she been doing this?
H: No, but I still don't feel anything for HVA.
MC: Well, sometimes feelings take awhile to catch up with the changes. Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop, like when is HVA going to go back to her old ways.
H: No, I believe she has made real changes & will not go back. I just don't feel like I love her. She & the kids had been gone for a week & I had lots of time to think about things & sometimes I wonder if we wouldn't just be happier if we split up & went our separate ways.
Me: I am not worried about splitting up & finding someone else. Believe me, I get hit on ALL the time, I'm still young & I'm not financially strapped to H...but there are still no other 2 perfect people in this world to raise our children, we would screw ourselves financially & most of all - I love him.
H: It just feels like we're not even married anymore. It's like we're just co parents.
Me: Well that probably has to do w/the fact that we don't spend any alone time together anymore & we barely do anything as a family. There isn't all that much to talk about anymore. We have alot in common being that we've been together almost 14 yrs & I've always cherished our friendship.
MC: Well, Mr. HVA it sounds like your feelings have really changed. When you first came in you didn't think there was ANY way Mrs. HVA could change. You said people can't change. Now you are saying you believe she's made lasting changes.
H: Yes that's true.
MC: Well should we schedule our next appt. for 2-3 weeks out.
H: How about next week?????
Why in 1 week if you don't even want to work on M???????????? This is all I can remember...lots of other stuff...
Me 36, Him 33 M 11yrs, T 15yrs S 8, D 7 ILYBINILWY - 1/09 H moves out 10/09 D to be final SOON I HOPE!
