We are waiting for his IC to come to some point where the IC thinks it is time. Asked him for MC when we started seeing each other regularly. IC said later, just last week though despite what AA members were counseling, IC said he was all for H and I reuniting.
I am not sure at this point what we will do there - but I am sure that we will figure it out when the time comes. Perhaps, one thing will be about how to dealing with the moments when one or both of us is reliving the past. H is having a harder time recalling these memories and is mentioning them a little at a time. He seems genuinely regretful.
For me, as long as things continue as they are, I will be ok. H isn't acting at all as in the past. He is in some ways still the same person, but in many ways, very different.
Last week we had a disagreement, some of his old thinking came up and I tried to back out of the argument. He wouldn't let me out of it at first so I just remained patient- a little worried - but I told myself that I had to let him figure this out. By the third phone call, he said he needed to back out of the argument and end it. It was a little awkward the next day at first but returned to normal soon enough. I admitted to him that I was afraid and he acknowledged my fear and then reassured me. We processed it a few days later when things were more relaxed. That would not have happened in the past.
It is these convo's/sitches that may need some help.
