What type of promises would the LBS be breaking to justify D in your mind? to love, honor, cherish I can agree if there was abuse, financial neglect, etc. does emotional neglect count in your book? But what about the WAS that just held in resentment over time, never had a discussion & just sent out "signals" that the LBS didn't get? But what if the was didn't keep quiet about it? what if it was made very clear how the actions or inactions of the current lbs were destroying the r? This seems to be more of the case on this board. I'll give you that there are an awful lot of oblivious people on this board. How can you not know when your r is suffering? And why is it the WAS's job to decide what's best for BOTH partners? it's not but it's also not the job of the waw to just stay in a unhealthy r just to keep the lbs content in their bubble either. And for an entire family in most cases. if the m is unhealthy the kids will suffer one way or another from that too. You know the children typically want their parents together. and I'd be willing to bet most sane was wanted that too but the cost began to be too high and honestly not worth it for the kids in the long run.
I still appreciate hearing the comments of the WAS to help us understand what is going on. I just still do not see the justification in this. not everything needs justification. Sometimes a waw is out of her mind but that doesn't mean we all are. Some of us are actually trying to do what's best for everyone involved believe it or not. [/quote]
