Hopefully your experts can help you find the best way forward on the tax stuff. It strikes me that from what I have read and heard, once the IRS gets through their head what is impossible, they are often willing to work out something that's possible. Even for them, something is better than nothing. Good luck!
If your H needs to step up, this might be a good time to push it. I'm thinking that since it really doesn't involve your R, he might not hold as much of it against you. And, if you can work together against the common enemy (our good friends at the IRS), maybe (in the little fantasy world I live in sometimes) it could help bring you together! It could happen!
