I've done nothing so far in terms of an "official" response. Wrote a long, @AlexEN-long, @Thinker-long ( ) set of "reflections" on her comments. And I tweak those from time-to-time. But it's all in the Draft folder of the e-mail account I use for Spam -- online newspaper registrations, etc. etc. -- so there's no danger of an inadvertent "send."
I have to say, after my initial resentment -- that's really what it was, not "anger" -- that she wrote me a note, presumably expecting me to read it, when she wouldn't extend the same courtesy to me, I was remarkably balanced about the whole thing. I called her out where I disagreed with her evaluations, expanded on areas of commonality and overlap where I did agree with her evaluations, and the like.
A good exercise for two reasons. One, it helped me clarify that it is ambiguity I am cultivating -- relishing, in fact -- in terms of "what's next" (ambiguity for me, mind you -- this isn't about her) and, two, it helped validate (for me) some of the new evaluations and ways-of-living that I've embarked upon. When I hear myself saying things, so to speak, and they come out without my thinking, "Hmm, what would Beattie/Schnarch/Davis/etc. say in this situation, what note do I recall taking?," then I'm pretty confident I'm internalizing and living and not just doing self-help-book monkey-see, monkey-do.
) set of "reflections" on her comments. And I tweak those from time-to-time. But it's all in the Draft folder of the e-mail account I use for Spam -- online newspaper registrations, etc. etc. -- so there's no danger of an inadvertent "send."
