I'm glad to see that you did not take offense to my post. I was not trying to say what you did was bad but more why it was ineffective. We all learn through trial and error.
It does sound like God has called you to something. My cousin is a priest. When he was Ordained 22 years ago, he did not want to have a Church of his own. He wanted to do research. Now he has a show on the Catholic Network teaching, so he has the biggest Church of them all. God sometimes changes our plan for us. I think you were to be a married man and serve him in a different capacity and maybe becoming a Deacon is still in the plans. There is definately something. He wants you to lean on Him and trust Him. Become dependent on Him. Some of your answers are actually in your post. Co-dependent, forgivness issues. I'm glad that you are turning back to Him. It does help so much. Pray that He will intervene for your wife as well, to soften her heart. Ask him to help you with forgivness.
Your new goals sound really good, especially the camping in the back yard. I always loved that as a child. I also like that you are having her get a baby sitter if she wants to go out. Puppy is so right and I know from experience that cake eating sucks and it is a cycle so don't start it now.
One more thing that just came into my head, what she is doing is not because of you, it is within her. No matter what the outcome, you will be a much stronger person because of this.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
