Hi mdoodles, yesssssss just last week I was through with this crap. I'm exhausted. Its been too much so I'm not sure about going back into this. He has yoyo'ed on me several times and I can't help but to feel like you walked out on so much so many of our plans that how can I really trust your word again. With that said, I'm trying to take one day at a time. He is insisting that this time he has made a promise not just to me but to God. To say the least, I'm holding my reservations. I mean I do and probably will always love him but I was getting my mind wrapped around pretty comfortably that their is no hope and that its for the best and I should move on and good will come to me. So this is all new developments and I'm still strongly unsure. But I'm wise enough to know that there really is nothing that can give me certainty right now other than time. I'm reading the book Change your Thoughts, Change your Life and I'm trying to employ the techniques of letting life unfold. So don't know what the future holds for me.
Yes, if we do go forward its absolutely zero tolerance. I've exercised enough tolerance with this. Enough is enough. And I know from experience that boundaries are absolutely necessary. H was running the show all the other times, its time for me to put things in the right perspective.
About not tellng him about the harrassment, I feel like I've done it all. Whenver OW would bug me I would go to H to tell him to let her leave me alone. And guess what it didn't stop her. Now I'm thinking that I will just ignore her calls but then I realized that if I tell him he will go to her and she will know where I stand and then she just will not stop. So better left unsaid for now. Again reading my book and thinking about my inner peace. I just don't want to give this girl any bit of my peace. Unless she attacks me again, I'm feeling like there is really nothing she can do to frazzle me. I know my H's wrongdoings she doesn't need to fill me in. But that said if H and I decide to give it a go, don't know, then I will bring it up to him and demand that he puts a stop to it in front of my presense. But again I don't even think she will - I think only consistent no response will stop her. Will keep you posted.
