he was back, i think

[kat727]

You will know when you are ready. Sometimes I would get a book regarding my situation. I could read it and for whatever reason it just didn't sink in. I would wait a month or so, pick up the book again and now it made sense. You can have the best advice given to, but until you are ready, you want have a clue on how to proceed.

I am not familiar with your situation but notice that you post quite a bit. What you need to focus on is you. Become the best you that you know how to be. If that means taking classes or picking up a hobby or just starting to go out with friends do it. You do this as a gift to yourself now but later it will be helpful for your current realtionship or your next. Then you can drop the rope and you won't need to be asking how to drop it. It is liberating. (oh and FYI, that doesn't equate to giving up). It is peace for you.

kat