What's it really all about?

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I think she surprises and (scares) herself when she feels emotions. She comes from a family of stoics where one fights through adversity and play is frowned upon because there is ALWAYS work to be done. But, I dare not guess if it is a conscious or unconscious outcry.

We must be sisters. I come from the same stock. Emotions = scary! I'd rather have physical pain than emotional pain anyday of the week. Have you always known this about her?

I'm curious about your interpretation that she does not seem all the way out the door; from where I sit, it feels as if she cannot get out the door fast enough.

All those tears. All those shared feelings. You know, if I'm gone and eternally p!ssed, I'm not crying about anything you write, say, do. I'm gone. And I'm not going to give you a glimpse at my softened side. I wonder why she did that?

[Well, here is the "negotiated" script.

They are your little kayaks, so what I think doesn't matter. I just know that when we told our kids about me moving out, Coach made sure I did all the talking. He just didn't contribute at all while I told them. All he said to the kids when I finished was "Do you have any questions for me?" Our daughter did and he answered them matter of factly (logistical questions mostly). Other than that, he put the miserable chore in my lap altogether ~~~ right where it belonged. Grrrrrrrrrrr >-{ but that guy was dead on right to do it! It was part of the lesson he gave me in Reality 101. But you know your children best and what you say GOES in my book. Just some food for thought.

Cheers ~