Thank you Lucky (and everyone) -- I think that PART of the nitpicking and criticism is that I am pushing and pushing in hopes that there is something to push against / hopes that he'll push back a little. Possibly to incite him to get a little more aggressive? It isn't conscious, for sure. Obviously, it is having the opposite affect. It would help if I, at least, thought about things before I said them (I have a terrible foot in the mouth problem as it is). Thank you again!
