What's it really all about?

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OK - I know no one will feel sorry for a WAS who cries occassionally...but some of what she writes is reflective of what she may really be feeling. So it's not junk. The notion of "Gee, wish we'd known then what we know now" is a reasonable place to be. The implied "Oh well, too late now" is flawed thinking, though. But how would she know that? Do you, does she know anyone who put a marriage back together? I think most people doubt it can be done....b/c it's as tough as it looks.

She is relaying what may be some useful and valuable info. Her reluctance to tell you something b/c she feared being misunderstood; taking care of herself v taking care of you (huge conflict!); unfullfilled in marriage. Seems like a sincere communication of an honest reflection.

She threads a lot of tears through her writing. Why tell you that? You would never know otherwise so why does she want you to know she is touched? So she doesn't look hardened? Cold? Numb? Ok, maybe. Still, a lot of crying out loud. She is showing you feelings she has about your marriage, you and the children. She does not seem all the way out of the door.

Make her do the talking - the heavy lifting - when y'all tell the kids. Do NOT help her.