Because I think it's OK if you honestly say you feel what's holding you back is that you don't want to let go.

I don't, however, think it's healthy if you don't WANT to want to, and I think THAT is where you're going to have to focus your efforts on.

It's like a porn addiction. I can give it up, or I can not WANT to give it up. But if I don't even WANT to want to give it up, then I have a problem.

Does that make any sense??

Puppy