You continue to forget to give us the needed details too.
Why is that? You want some easy answers? There are NONE. Do the work it takes to save your marriage or lose it.
But don't give us half ass answers and hope we can magically solve your problems. Read the books for starters. Good grief, do you want this marriage or not? Why can't you answer our questions?
What are you actually willing to do to save it? Change anything?
Guess what? That is mandatory.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016