She had a book in her car that she was reading when we pulled up, I think it was Parenting after Divorce. I backslid a bit and asked her why she was reading that and she did not answer. My son said to her when she was pulling him out of the car "Mom I don't want to go to nanna and poppa's house lets go to our house." I did not answer I wanted her to answer him. She just told him I know.
I know how you felt with that. There's has been numerous times when I have brought S3 to W and as soon as he realized the roads would start crying and saying he doesn't want to go to Nana's. Also know that disheartening feeling - when W and I were communicating a little she told me she was lying in bed reading a book about divorce(don't remember exact title), and there I was at home reading men are from mars, women from venus.
IMO-I'm just new at DB'ing, but it seems like you are doing what you need to do - different things work for different people. Hang in there RTQ, I wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prayers.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story
