Cat- Sounds like you have had a lot to deal with in the past few days! I pray for strength for you as you drop the rope and make progress for yourself. It sounds like yours has been a long, long journey and I admire your patience and perseverance.
You had mentioned the book the Power of a Praying Wife which I have and have used in the past but quit in the past few months since I certaily didn't feel much like a wife anymore (bad reason, I know). Anyway, I picked it up again - couldn't ignore how many times this comes up as a recommended book - a few days ago and did as you suggested I have just been opening it up and praying wherever it landed. This morning it was his trials, and the first paragraph said "You alone know the depth of the burden my husband carries. . . . I have not come to minimize what You are doing in his life, for I know You work great things in the midst of trials. Nor am I trying to protect him from waht he must face. I only want to support him so that he will get through this battle as the winner."