She replied to the reply, seriously, and seemingly intrigued by the fact that, in the midst of serious financial challenges, Mr. and Mrs. MHSF are "pulling together in the stress" which, WAW concludes, "is an endorsement" of the program.
Hmmmmmm.
Hmmmmm indeed!
Her note and her interest Retrouvaille are polar opposites and my Orange brain would say the latter trumps. Why would she care at all about Retrouvaille if she were done?
How often do marriages fail because the relationship is bad vs because either side has given up on the hope to fix it?
Currently in my Orange sitch, it seems time to get something out there along the lines, "if you ever want to do the work to fix the R then there are tools and people who can help." She need to know there's hope.
During our lunch, W asked me "How is WomanFriend?" in somewhat sarcastic voice (she thinks we've got something). She knows WomanFriend was having marriage troubles and facing some of the same issues we were. I told her I gave WomanFriend a good db pep talk, some books, and told her don't give up. She spent a vacation having some tough talks with H but things were beginning to turn around. They said ILY's and left the vacation happy. Wife was impressed. The implied answer was, "They can do it and we can too."
I don't know how to respond to that note (I'll leave that to Coach, Gypsy, et al) but it seems there's something in that Retrou email that deserves attention. Hope.
Last edited by orangedog; 06/30/0906:27 PM.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
