i dont know that i see our encounters as an attempt to reconcile. i think it keeps us linked, keeps us connected, and keeps as at the point where we might consider reconciling.

i know im trying to move on, trying to move forward, but still keeping the door open for him,,,,it is ultimately what i want.

i want my family together, i want my husband to fully recover from this and be willing to work on things with me.

what i do realize is that ow must be fully out of the picture, most likely for a while, before we can even address our marriage.

i do realize boundaries would need to be set, should he return home.

i dont expect him home tomorrow. or the next day.

im living things day by day for now.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09