Sara, I think counseling is in order, too. My H has been going pretty regularly lately and it is helping him. He has mentioned us going together in the future, but says he still has his own stuff to work through first. I told him that I would go when he was ready for us both to be there. He, from time to time, will mention that he thinks once his head is straight, we could do a lot to fix our m on our own. This makes me nervous, as I am having a difficult time expressing myself. Worst case scenario I will go on my own, and he will go on his own. I’m just not ready yet. Retrouvaille was a great experience for us. We both still talk about how helpful it was for us. We understand each other better and are able to have constructive discussions about conflicts. I am struggling with actually feeling anything towards him or anyone/anything else, etc. My H is just different than I. He feels everything. He’s sensitive to everything. I like this about him. It’s one of things that I fell in love with; I’m just not like that. I think he sees this as a flaw, and maybe to some extent it is. Some things to figure out here.
Saffie, thanks. I agree. I think this is what he is going through right now. I think being apart from OW has helped that. And he has take precautions against having any contact with her. She requested his friendship on facebook, he closed his account, she sent him emails, he blocked her email address. He has been invited to events by old coworkers and won’t go, just under the chance she might be there. He is truly sorry, regretful, and repentant and doesn’t want to have anything to do with her. I see that.
CL – I can see why you added that to your Inspiration Notebook. It’s so true. . . thank you for sharing that with me!
EM
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
