Hi Mish, T, Kat.. well, he said she DID knock first, but when I asked if she had ever come in his room before, when he used to stay with her, he said.. NO.. never. He agreed it was innappropriate. We went on a long bike ride last night and had a lovely evening, but he did rant about her negativity and lack of interest in others and I listened and validated (!) but had to say I felt she wasnt AS warm to me as she used to be. He really felt she has just got worse in herself (depressed) so not to take it personally. T you are right, we both didnt use to get so much support from our Mums, but thats turned around in the past 2 years. So yes we did use to parent each other in a nurturing sense, but perhaps thats not the case now! Kat, I hadnt thought of that.. she couldnt possibly blame HER darling boy for the breakup hey!?
He told me the 22 year old receptionist moved to his village so he will now be car sharing with her.. I got a bit quiet and he noticed and asked me what was wrong, so I had to tell him that I am generally confident but things can make me have a wobble.. he was amazed I was worried and said he doesnt fancy her at all and besides, there was no need for me to not have confidence, or to worry. But I still do a bit, not surprisingly??
Afterall, he told me before the bomb he wasnt interested in Helen.. but he must have been lying because he left me and then ended up dating her! I believe him that he doesnt fancy this 22 year old, but it highlights the fact I still feel in a vunerable position with him. He still doesnt seem to want to talk about the past.
