DQ, Yep, here we go back and forth, up and down, round and round. Talked with the wife last night and of course she says today she doesn't think her whole heart would be in it if she moved back home(I expected something like this). I just listened and didn't say anything. She claims there is a whole bunch of reasons that she doesn't want to come back home. Most of her reasons were things that could be worked on and fixed if she wanted to but she doesn't want to. So, no progression at all other than some talk that doesn't mean anything. I didn't point out to her this time that she's missing out on seeing her daughter grow up as I don't know if she really cares about that anymore. She made a comment to the effect of "I just don't have the patience to deal with her anymore". I hope my D never finds that out.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
AFWAW have been following your story but haven't posted since you have a lot of great people posting to you...but...You really need to take control of the situation and soon for yours and your D sake. I know it's hard but once you do you will feel so much better, you won't get *icked around anymore, you'll feel a weight lifted off you.
You've done your best, given it your all, it's time.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
AF - To be honest. Im not sure how you put up with her so long. I dont know her and I want a D. Her flip flopping is exhausting. Not to mention her totally selfish disregard for your daughter.