What I've learned about detaching

[BigJohn]

Hello Steady,

It's LFH again. I'm having a terrible time with this detachment thing. Today, I took a terrible backslide in my PMA and detachment. AlexEN is correct...if you think you've detached...you probably haven't.

To me, it seems detachment would be simple if one were to start dating. By focusing attention on someone else, I bet detachment would come sooner and easier. I'm not talking about anything inappropriate (ie jumping into the sack or falling in love), but spending time with a female whom I could share my daily experiences. This may be too dangerous and it could backfire. By loving my W as much as I do, I don't see myself ever completely detaching, unless she does something very inappropriate (like an affair). Maybe I need to pray more and have more faith in God. Oh boy, do I sound pathetic today!

What are your thoughts?
-LFH

LFH,

The idea about spending time with other females to help you detach is not a good idea. Don't do it. I know how you feel about your W, I feel the same way. Stick to your guns and work on yourself, go GAL- do stuff with your (male) buddies and if you have kids, spend as much time with them as you can doing fun stuff. Lots of prayers and continued faith in God is definitely a good thing.

Hang in there!