Trying to detach from the madness!

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My MIL is at the very least narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, with a few other diagnoses thrown in for good measure. Not sure which is real, which is to get attention (she's claimed multiple personality disorder).

She's rewritten history so that she's convinced herself she's a good mother. When H and I starte dating, she was selling meth out of her house while H's father was dying in the hospital. She still had a 13yo son living at home. H's dad wanted to leave, but was afraid she'd do something drastic with BIL.

H's dad would tell him over and over, never to get married, and that he wished that he were dead. This is what my H knows about marriage.

My H is turning 30 this year and is responsible for his own choices, but he can't separate his perceptions from his upbringing with our marriage & the stress we were having (just normal, sh*t-happens stuff).