Trying to detach from the madness!

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Delete. She will never, ever get it, no matter what you say. Ten bucks says her "My son can do no wrong" attitude has a lot to do with who her son is... (I haven't read all of your backstory so I don't know for sure, but I'm going off of my experience with nutty moms)

My H thinks that growing up with his crazy, crazy mother, and his parents' awful marriage has nothing to do with anything.

(The therapist had to explain to him that it's not manipulative for pregnant women to spontaneously cry when they're stressed out.)