Like she will do what it takes to get and keep him.
Does she know you don't want him???
She does sound wacky. I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do but maybe you should forward that email to yourself, just in case. Don't for get to delete out of the sent folder AND the deleted items folder...
LOL...I already did. I keep all whacky or needed emails. Not sure if I could ever use them in court or not, but I have them anyway. It was rather scary and Fatal Attraction like.
Who knows what she thinks. If she ever read his texts to me she would know that he sends me alot. I just respond when needed. OW told me that he said I bugged him all the time until she started snooping at his texts and she realized he was still after me. Maybe this freak will too.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
wow, that is scary. you just continue to keep your cool though and proactive.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I was feeling ok the past few days. Trying to only think about baby and what I need to do for her.
A few weeks ago I sent an email to MIL. Her and I had gotten into it on the phone right before that because I was sick of her telling me how great exh was doing, how he was going to church, how he stopped drinking, and how he was dating a nice girl with 3 kids. I couldn't stand it. I said he was none of the above. He was still drinking and was dating a married woman. She had all kinds of excuses. Of course I couldn't stop there and I sent her an email saying he only tells her what she wants to hear, this womans family is breaking apart, and its a tragedy. I also said I was disappointed in the lack of family support for me after he found out about the dui details. Nobody had the guts to do it, yet got so upset when he drank and drove.
She must have just read it and here are a few parts to her response to me last night: "There may be a lot I don't know and don't want to. I much prefer to pray and fast for him. The family I heard of was already torn apart. Maybe there are things you don't know!. you have a lot of spiritual and mentaly growing to do. If you listen to what Jesus tells you maybe someday with a changed heart exh might want to have a life with you. You have to be willing to accept him as God does, without jealousy, judgements, nagging or whatever causes you to react to his behavior. If you love someone it has to be unconditionally as God loves us. He always hates the sin but never the sinner. God's word tells us how to live and we all have changing to do always ....................IT IS A FULL TIME JOB CHANGING OURSELVES SO WE SHOULDNT' HAVE TIME TO BE INTO OTHERS BUSINESS. AND IF YOU HAVE PEOPLE TELLING WHAT exh IS DOING OR NOT DOING THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS AND YOU SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM THEM AND TELL THEM"
Once again MIL throws her faith in my face but does nothing to her son. Sorry she is a hypocrite. She doesn't know what he tries to pull with me. Mil, people talk about your son because he is such a screwup! Not because of me.
Last edited by Startingover2; 06/30/0901:09 PM.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Oh my Lord...So only you have to change and your exh is just fine because God loves him? It's ok to date a married woman because her family "was having trouble" anyway, I can't quote scripture but I'm not sure what book of the Bible that would be in.
All I can say is WOW, that is one screwed up family...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
With a MIL like that, I'd be happy to be rid of the H.
Maybe if you didn't nag or judge him, he'd stay with you so that he could do whatever the hell he wanted while you looked the other way and were happy about it? WTF-ever.
Sorry, I have an aversion to MILs. That's the brightest spot in my separation - no dealing with my MIL.
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
VD I borrowed your words. I hope you don't mind as they were perfect. Just tweeked them a bit.
"Thanks for the email. I appreciate your words and am trying to move past this relationship with exh and on with my own life. I just have an exception to some things and want to express them to you with love of course.
So only I have to change and exh is just fine because God loves him? It's ok to date a married woman who was still living in the same home with her husband up until about a week ago because her family "was having trouble" anyway, I can't quote scripture but I'm not sure what book of the Bible that would be in.
Yes, I have some growing to do. We all do."
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Delete. She will never, ever get it, no matter what you say. Ten bucks says her "My son can do no wrong" attitude has a lot to do with who her son is... (I haven't read all of your backstory so I don't know for sure, but I'm going off of my experience with nutty moms)
My H thinks that growing up with his crazy, crazy mother, and his parents' awful marriage has nothing to do with anything.
(The therapist had to explain to him that it's not manipulative for pregnant women to spontaneously cry when they're stressed out.)
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
