I've given thought to comments and warnings of the OM possibility. My W does alot of facebooking and i know she chats with various ppl including some of her coworkers. Is it possible she has more than a good friend relationship with an OM at work (one in particular i can think of)? Heck, anything is possible but really why would i want to fret and worry about it? Doesn't mean the OM would even reciprocate. It would only drive me mad and not achieve anything. I will not snoop either although i have the capability of doing so if i wanted. I don't want to play mind games over this.
It's not "mind games" to assess the truth of what might be threatening your family, and to then deal with the truth accordingly. But it's up to you -- I won't push it any further, other than to say that I've never been wrong.
It never ceases to amaze me how posters will come on this forum and ask US -- complete strangers, who don't live with you and who don't really have a clue, from this distance -- "what do you think THIS means," or "do you suppose she's doing THAT?", etc. And yet they won't utilize any tools at their disposal to assess what's REALLY going on with their wayward spouse.
And you're being naive if you think that a man won't eventually reciprocate, if he hasn't already.
