Thanks 25. Yes....I am scared to death that this is what she is now going to do to me. Since CPS is now involved, my daughter has changed. S8 has not.
I am not sure how much I can post now...with regards to time and pain but I BELIEVE that STBXW will accuse me falsely. Fortunately, CPS became involved based on MY request for an order of protection against her. I find it amazing that 2 days after CPS interviews us that D6 becomes cold, angry and avoidant of me. I wouldn't put it past STBXW coaching her.
I thought I had a good interview ...but who knows. The LG thought my STBXW was stellar and ignored my comments. My L seems unconcerned right now and thought that CPS' involvement was a positive because of STBXW's behavior.
I can't sleep and my appetite is down. This is hell and all ramped up from her since the appraisal came out. I hope CPS sees the truth here.
I apologize to those I support that I haven't the time to help them. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I too would not be surprised that your STBXW is doing the parental alienation with your daughter. Hopefully, CPS and the court can see through that.
I am so hoping this agony ends soon for you. It is not healthy on the body and soul. I am still optimistic that things are going to work out ok in the end of your marriage for you and your children.
Thanks. I need some sleep. To all those who said, "it'll get worse"...you were right......
Kerry...Kalni..25...Jeff.....et all...thanks for unwavering support. This is the challenge of my life.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hey FIB, just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. You always told me, "You will be ok" and you will too. I know it. The only way is through, my friend.
I've just been reading through your sitch and I just had to say that I am so very sorry you are going through this and that you and your kids are in my thoughts and prayers.
The things your STBXW is doing......I have no words......does mental illness run in her family? Barring some mitigating circumstance like that, I have no idea how someone could rationalize behavior like hers!!
Take care, and listen to 25yearsMLC and protect yourself! Even if you like your L, perhaps this is just not her "area of expertise"...... If you are not absolutely comfortable with what he/she is doing on your behalf, you owe it to yourself and your kids to look at other L's to see if there is a better fit...... Just a suggestion.
Hang in there!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Make sure you "stroke" CPS b/c they often feel threatened and insecure around professionals who "outrank" them and if they get a chance, there are a few around who want to hurt doctors if they can. It's a long story but there is empirical evidence that some social workers are simply pre-disposed to findings of guilt or "substantiation" against men in authority. Show them the warm and fuzzy side we see.
Even after the McMartin trials (I urge those of you in relevant situations to research those cases) there are still social workers who trust EVERY WORD a kid says and have no idea that they can be misled or coached. I've shown this in court where I have proved a kid to be "mistaken" about his imaginary friend who was with a pink mouse but that kid had been believed at the first trial about an event occuring 18 months earlier & "blurted out voluntarily" to my client's EX mil....(sure...sure he did.)
Enough. You say your L is not too concerned and you trust her so that bodes well about the judge IF your take on the L is a good one.
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks all. D6 seems to be coming around. Not sure what was with that.
A small framed 'congrats on the dean's list' card is now on her dresser. Still...she needs to have to reinforce something about self esteem on herself.
My son is totally clingy. He needs to have a catch morning, noon and evening. Not a bad thing and I never say no..but...he is hurting inside I am sure.
Although our next court meeting is 8/10, we have a hearing on 7/16 over the dual orders of protection and the report by CPS.
Yes...25...I have heard that anything is possible with CPS. Don't forget, I tried to tell the LG about STBxW's behavior last summer and she didn't seem to believe me and thought STBXW was 'mom of the year'.
One interesting note....suddenly, the house is getting cleaned up.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Silent...thanks for your stopping by. This past week or so has been the worst for me since the bomb. It still blows me away where I am right now..meaning....how this has gone from trying to save my marriage to trying to keep from being arrested by her on false charges.
The more I go thru this...the less I think about 'how much she changed' vs. this is who she was all the time.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
